Have you ever been over at a friend’s house and spotted a fleshlight hanging around because they forgot to put it away? Maybe they’re okay with it (no judgment from me) but I can say with great confidence that they’ve never read this guide on the most discreet fleshlights of 2023.
They’re a very popular male masturbator toy but we get it, not everyone wants other people knowing they have one. Perhaps you live with a roommate and don’t want them knowing about it. Chances are though, they probably have their own.
Regardless, if you want a toy that isn’t going to have you fumbling around making up a story of how someone broke into your home but instead of stealing anything they left an odd looking torch that doesn’t even light up, well, in that case – I’m happy you’ve found us.
I’ve put together a list of the most discreet fleshlights on the market to help minimize the risk of having to have any awkward conversations. Keep on reading to find out more about the most discreet fleshlights available today, and where to find them!
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Why Trust Us?
I’ve searched long and hard to find the top most discreet toys around, in order to help you choose the best toy that’s suited to you.
Biased reviews aren’t really my style, and I’m all about honesty. I’m not here to try and flog a product, I simply test and review adult toys to help you get the most out of your sex life. If you’re interested in any of the fleshlights on this page and end up purchasing one, great! If not, that’s cool, too.
When it comes to sex toys, it mostly comes down to personal preference. All I’m doing is highlighting what I liked and what I didn’t rate so much based on the design, maintenance, and overall experience. Stick with me if you’re interested, you may learn a thing or two.
Best Discreet Fleshlights
- Fleshlight Flight Pilot – best overall full-size fleshlight with discreet design.
- Arcwave Voy – best open ended so that men with both large and small penises alike can enjoy.
- Lovense Max 2 – best for men who like interactive toys and using with a partner.
Listed below are 12 of the best and most discreet masturbation toys on the market in 2023. I’ve tried and tested each one personally, both with a partner and flying solo, to bring you an honest and unbiased review.
With so many options available, it can be tough knowing which one to buy, so I’ve made things a little easier by highlighting their good points and their bad points. Keep on reading to find out more about the top most discreet fleshlights around.
1. Fleshlight Flight Pilot – best overall full-size fleshlight
The Fleshlight Flight Pilot comes in at no.1 on my list of most discreet fleshlights. I like the black casing which adds to its obscurity, and it also feels fucking amazing. The price tag isn’t as high as some of the others either, which is also a bonus.
While the Fleshlight Flight is full-sized, it’s full-sized for the average penis. Anyone with a penis longer than 6 inches may struggle to enjoy this toy fully. It’s a sleek, compact design that’s also ideal for taking away with you if you travel a lot.
Overall, it’s simple to use and the overall maintenance of it was straightforward without any fuss – plus the dry time wasn’t too long! Definitely worthy of the top spot on this list.
Pros
- Simple to use
- Discreet and full-size
- Easy to clean with fast dry time
- Cheaper that many others
Cons
- Not ideal for men with larger penises
Read my full Fleshlight Flight review.
2. Arcwave Voy – Best open ended
The best thing about the Arcwave Voy is that it comes with its own Tightness Adjustment System, meaning you have ultimate control over 8 varying pressure settings. Not only that, but when I asked people what they thought it was, a lot of them answered by saying they thought it was a wireless speaker! Not one person guessed that it was a fleshlight, meaning it definitely earns a spot on this list.
The model fits comfortably in your hand and it’s open at both ends – perfect for any penis size. The interior ribs are basic, but they definitely do the job. My only real complaint is that I did find there were quite a lot of creaks and odd noises here and there when using.
Pros
- Soft and supple silicone
- Compact design that fits perfectly in your hand
- Comes with a sample sachet of lube
- Tightness Adjustment System
- Removable sleeve makes it easy to give a deep clean
Cons
- Can be quite loud when using
3. Lovense Max 2 – Most interactive
If you’re a technophobe, then maybe steer clear of this one, but if you’re into gadgets then the Lovense Max 2 is worth taking a look at. I was dubious at first, I thought it was a bit of a gimmick and didn’t really understand how an app could do anything for me, but I was pleasantly surprised.
I particularly liked how you can pair it up with your partner’s toy – making it perfect for long distance. It is a bit heavy and the price isn’t exactly cheap, however, it is discreet in how it looks – again, people thought this was a smartspeaker!
Pros
- Can be controlled through smartphone application
- Interactive with other toys
- Vibrates
Cons
- High price
- Noisy at times
4. Tenga Geo Coral – Most discreet male masturbator
Now, I know what you’re thinking – what the hell is this? Well, it’s a discreet male masturbator, obviously – which is why you’re here. While not technically a fleshlight, this does work as a ‘pocket pussy’. It’s got some really interesting textures going on that make for a pretty awesome experience.
It doesn’t feel like your average fleshlight, it’s sort of like sticking your dick into a soft, plush, pillow – and honestly, it felt alright. Worth a shot if you’re looking for something a little different. I did feel like the material could have some more stretch to it, but other than that it was perfectly fine.
Pros
- Made from a soft material
- Easy enough to clean thanks to it being reversible
- Interesting textures
- Waterproof
Cons
- Material could be stretchier
5. Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Lux – Best remote controlled
If you’re a fan of remote controlled toys, then I’d recommend the Hot Octopull Pulse Solo Lux – that is if you’re willing to spend a bit extra as it is quite pricey. It’s good overall and it does have strong vibrations that tingle all areas of your penis, plus it’s discreet and compact making it perfect for travel.
It takes a while to recharge fully, and again it is expensive. If you’re looking for a big finish, then there are other toys in this list that offer more of an explosion, but it was a nice addition in the bedroom with my partner who likes to use it on me when performing oral.
Pros
- Remote controlled
- Strong vibrations
- Compact making it ideal for travel
Cons
- Takes time to recharge
- Expensive
6. Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage – Best for texture
The Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage is a popular choice for men looking for a discreet toy, not only because it’s compact and portable, it also feels really, really good! It has some incredible textures, and men with both large and small penises alike can enjoy it.
I did find some of the suction noises to be a little distracting and takes away from its subtlety, however, it’s nothing that cranking up the volume on your radio won’t fix. I’ve even started taking this with me whenever I travel!
Pros
- Reasonably priced
- Portable making it ideal for travel
- Open ended
- Good amount of tightness and texture
Cons
- Can be noisy
7. Tenga Egg Wonder – Best for variety
This is a great addition to any male sex toy bag. The eggs are extremely discreet, coming in an egg box – but they’re far from the kind you have for breakfast. Unless morning sex is on the cards. My partner really enjoyed using these on me, and honestly, I enjoyed using these myself. Each egg comes with a different texture, perfect for keeping things interesting! These include:
- Wind
- Stud
- Tube
- Curl
- Mesh
- Ring
If you’re a bit… heavy handed, then these may not be best suited to you as I was concerned that they weren’t going to hold up with them feeling so fragile. However, for the price – definitely worth a purchase!
Pros
- Six eggs each with different textures
- Stretchy eggs to fit all penis sizes
- Lube included
- Inexpensive
Cons
- Can be quite fragile
Read my full Tenga Eggs review.
8. Fun Factory Cobra Libre II – Most powerful discreet toy
Another non-fleshlight, but worth a mention is the Cobra Libre II. I’ve added this to the list because of how discreet it is, and because it does produce quite a bit of pleasure. While this toy doesn’t fit your entire dick (only for use on the tip of your penis and part of the shaft), it isn’t designed to. The vibrations are powerful and I did find that it was a bit of a trial and error process, as I wasn’t convinced at first. After a few goes, I started to enjoy it.
If you’re not into vibrators, then give this one a miss.
Pros
- Waterproof
- Strong vibrations
- Simple to clean
Cons
- Only for use on the tip and part of the shaft
- Quite expensive
Read my full Cobra Libre review.
9. Tenga Flip Zero – Most suction
I’d heard good things about the Tenga Flip Zero, so I was excited to get my hands on my own. At first, I did find it a bit of a fuss to open it up but I soon got the hang of it after more uses. This toy has a fantastic amount of suction and really grips onto your penis. Its discreet design is sleek, and if you didn’t know any better then you wouldn’t guess this was a fleshlight.
Other than the fuss on opening and the high price tag, this toy is good for men who want their discreet fleshlight to have a lot of suction. You can even adjust the suction to control how and when you cum. Definitely recommend!
Pros
- Good amount of suction
- Simple to clean
- Adjustable suction
Cons
- Expensive
- Can be fiddly to open
10. Tenga Spinner Tetra – Best spinner
This slippery little sucker will certainly have your head in a spin. The Tenga Spinner Tetra has awesome suction, combine that with the auto-spiral motion, then you’re in for a good time.
My only issues were the slippiness, which is expected when you add in the lube, and the fart noises weren’t exactly a turn on. But if you can see past those, then I definitely recommended this toy!
Pros
- Spinning and suction feels incredible
- Discreet
- Portable
- Comes with lube
Cons
- Can be slippy
- Noisier than others
11. Arcwave Ghost Silicone – Most discreet if you’re on a budget
If you’re on a budget and not looking to purchase a full fleshlight, then the Arcwave Ghost is definitely worth checking out. Not only is it cheap, but it offers a good amount of texture and the stretchy silicone material means it’s good for men who are well endowed, and those on the smaller side.
I’m not gonna lie, at first I was doubtful that this would do anything for me when I took it out of its packaging, and I may have overdone the lube. However, a few tries later (and less lube) this little thing certainly does the job. I doubt it’s made for excessive use, but for the price you can’t really begrudge it.
Pros
- Inexpensive
- Stretchy silicone material
- Simple to use
- Easy to rinse and clean
- Nice texture
Cons
- Small in length
12. Fleshskins Grip Ice – Best for all round sensation
The Fleshskins Grip Ice has an open ended sleeve that comes with a sleek storage case. It’s discreet with a cool design, plus it feels good. If you have a larger penis, then you may not feel the full effect of this fleshlight, however, smaller penises will have a ball.
An added benefit of this toy is the transparent material, so if you’re someone who likes to see what’s happening as you thrust, or if you’re using it with your partner with a visual kink, this toy is worth a buy!
Pros
- Transparent material if you enjoy visuals
- Comes with a storage case
- Feels good in your hand and easy to hold with finger-holes for better grip
- Intense textures
- Sleeve only so you can intensify your grip
Cons
- Men with larger penises may not get full benefit
- Can be messy after use
How I Tested Each Discrete Fleshlight
When researching for this guide, I made notes of what I want most out of my masturbation toys. I considered the packaging, first impressions of the design, prep-time, overall experience, clean-up time, and of course, how discreet the toy is.
I look at each toy subjectively and go in blind. Only after I use the toy will I look at other reviews to see how other people felt about them. This doesn’t really sway my opinion, if I like it – I like it, but I’m always curious to see what other men say.
Since I know that these toys can be used both solo and with a partner, I always make sure to test them out in the bedroom with my girlfriend and see how she likes it.
For the purpose of this article, obviously the main feature was how discreet the toy is. I’d asked others who are unfamiliar with male fleshlights to guess what they thought the object was. These conversations also contributed to how I reviewed each product, marking each out of 10 on how discreet they are as well as how stimulating and easy to clean they are.
Why buy a discreet fleshlight?
The simple answer? Why not?! Well, maybe you don’t want anyone knowing that you own a fleshlight, so if that’s the case then a discreet fleshlight is ideal. They reduce the risk of pesky roommates asking unwanted questions or even worse, your family. Eek.
Choosing Your Next Discreet Fleshlight And Where To Purchase
The best thing to do when choosing any new toy is to honestly ask yourself, what do I want out of my fleshlight? While you’re looking for something that’s discreet, you don’t want to compromise on the pleasure. Check out reviews online that people leave on adult stores to get other opinions – these can honestly go a long way.
Once you have an idea of what you’re looking for, look online to see where you can purchase your choice of toy. There’s a whole world of adult sex toy websites available online, including LoveHoney.com, adamandeve.com, and Fleshlight’s own online store.
Is My Fleshlight Shipped In Discreet Packaging?
Worried about nosey neighbors peeping through their curtains and seeing you receive a delivery with not so subtle packaging? Heck, the delivery worker may as well shout through a megaphone and let the whole neighborhood know what you’re getting up to behind closed doors. Well, that’s not the case! Most online adult stores have their very own discreet packaging, so even the delivery worker won’t know what they’re dropping off! Phew.
Cleaning Up Your Fleshlight After Use
If you’ve never owned a fleshlight before, then you may not be aware of how to clean them. Not to worry, I’ve given you some tips on how to make sure your discreet fleshlight is cleaned and good to go for your next use! I recommend cleaning your toy before and after you use it, just because they can get a little dusty and you want to make sure it’s sanitary!
- After you’ve finished playing with your toy, pour out the contents into a toilet or a sink.
- Run the sleeve under lukewarm water, making sure that you are thorough and do not leave any marks behind.
- Wipe your toy dry with a towel.
Cleaning and drying times may vary between toys. You’ll find that the more textured toys are trickier to clean because of the various textures going on.
If you’re concerned about someone spotting your fleshlight while you leave it out to dry, put it into a shoebox (make sure there’s some airflow) and set it up somewhere out of reach, or at the bottom of your closet. If you’re not concerned about leaving it out for a few hours to dry, then a drying rack is best.
Where Can I Store My Fleshlight So That It Won’t Be Found By Others?
Discreet fleshlights are good because many of them can mask as something else, whether it’s a smartspeaker or a camera lens. If you’re still unsure and want to keep it hidden, then here are some suggestions of where to store it so that it’s out of sight!
- Under your bed
- In a drawer
- In the bathroom
- In your box of toys
Some of these are so discreet though, that they can be hidden in plain sight and no-one would question a thing. Discreet fleshlights are also great if you’re traveling, and don’t want to be the topic of conversation amongst security when they scan your bag! Been there, done that.
Tips For Using A Discreet Fleshlight
Wanting tips on how to use your brand new discreet toy? Well, here’s a few to get you started.
Flying Solo – A major way of using a toy is by yourself. Before you begin, make sure you have everything you think that you will need at hand including the toy, lube, and a box of Kleenex. If you’re watching a video, then make sure you’ve got your phone/device handy, too.
With a Partner – One common misconception of the fleshlight is that they’re only good for solo sessions. This couldn’t be more untrue. Share the joys of a fleshlight with your partner and take sexy time to a whole new level. Fantasizing about threesomes with another hot chick? Here’s a top tip. Welcome the fleshlight into the bedroom and have them sit on your face while they use the fleshlight on you. The imagination is a wonderful thing!
Edging – Fleshlights are great if you want to practice edging. This means bringing yourself to the point of orgasm, but stopping yourself before you finish. By practicing ‘edging’, men can also learn how to last longer in bed. Winner winner!
We’ve also written a full guide on how to use a Fleshlight a while ago.
FAQs
How do I clean my discreet fleshlight?
After you’ve finished with your fleshlight, take the sleeve from out of its case and empty into a toilet. Rinse the sleeve and the case with warm water for 30 seconds each and wipe away any remaining dirt with a cloth. Once you’re satisfied that your toy and the case is clean, wipe the exterior with a damp (clean) cloth.
Which lube is best when using a discreet fleshlight?
When it comes to using fleshlights, water-based lubricants are best as they are free from any ingredients that may cause irritation if you suffer with sensitive skin.
Where do I store my discreet fleshlight?
A discreet fleshlight can be stored on your bookshelf, computer desk, or kitchen table – that’s the beauty of them being discreet. Alternatively, store them where you would store any old fleshlight – in a cool, dry area of your home. Be careful of dust though, as they are sensitive to this.
Will shipping for my fleshlight be discreet?
Online stores have got your back. They recognize that not everyone is keen on the idea of the delivery worker knowing what they’ve ordered. This is why a lot of reputable online stores, such as LoveHoney.com, guarantee discreet packaging to avoid those awkward moments.
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