Edging: How to Perfectly Execute It

Premature ejaculation can be cured – naturally. Forget about sprays and numbing creams, practice Edging, and take charge of your life.


There are three main reasons why you want to start Edging.

First of all, Edging will make you aware of your PONR (point of no return), second, it will push back your ejaculatory threshold by building resistance in your body, and third, it will build mental strength over your urge.

1) Your PONR (point of no return)


Discovering your PONR is essential, especially from a mental and motivational point of view.

When you are able to feel your PONR, you become responsible for your ejaculation.

It’s easy to complain about premature ejaculation when you feel like it “just happens” to you, but when you learn to feel your point of no return things change forever.

Next time you’re having sex, if you feel your PONR but instead of stopping keep stimulating, and go over it, you are consciously choosing to prematurely ejaculate and can’t blame anyone for it.

Responsibility is essential.

Taking full responsibility for what happens in your world is the first fundamental step to transformation. If you don’t feel responsible for your results you can’t change them.

2) Edging Can Save You 10 Years of Your Life

The second reason why you want to start Edging is that it will push back your PONR by raising your ejaculatory threshold.

If you have premature ejaculation you’re likely to have a low ejaculatory threshold. A little bit of stimulation and a low level of arousal is enough to make you reach your PONR and climax.

A lot of people (especially those older than you) will tell you that all you need is time and practice and that by growing older you’ll naturally become able to last longer in bed.

Well, thank God you were born in this amazing time where you can learn anything quickly if you’re willing to put in the effort.

A consistent practice of Edging will save you from having to “learn by experience”. Instead of wasting your best years suffering from premature ejaculation with the “appealing” idea that one day when you’re 75 you’ll be able to last longer, you can accelerate this process with the practice of Edging and enjoy long intercourse now – no matter how old you are.

3) Master Your Urge to Ejaculate

Generally speaking, you are not allowed to ejaculate at the end of each Edging session but you can usually ejaculate every two or three sessions (depending on your age).

This is hard.

When you’ve masturbated and taken yourself close to ejaculation for 20-30 minutes, being able to pull up your pants and move onto something else without ejaculating requires loads of willpower.

In this way you learn how to become stronger than your biological sensations, stronger than your urge basically, and this will help you become a man in control.

Remember you are absolutely not repressing your arousal but you’re on top of it: you feel it, your body is craving an ejaculation but you’re mentally cool.

How to Execute an Edging Session

First of all, in order to Edge, you need privacy for at least 20-30 minutes, and since one of the causes of premature ejaculation is the bad habit teenagers have of masturbating in a rush (to avoid their parents catching them or entering their room), you want to make 100% sure you’ll have at least half an hour to yourself before starting.

Also, if you haven’t yet, get one of these today. They feel like a real pussy, are perfect for edging, and will noticeably speed up your improvements.

Basic Edging:

1) Stimulate yourself until you get an erection. While you do, be attentive and feel every sensation in your body (especially in your pelvic floor).

2) Using some silicone-based lubricant, stroke your penis starting from the base and slowly moving towards the top (avoiding the fraenulum and the glans at the beginning).

3) When you feel you’re getting close to your PONR, start moving down the shaft again and completely stop when you reach your PONR (or when you’re about to reach it).

4) While you wait for your arousal to subside, feel every sensation in your body and take slow deep breaths. Be a man, face your sensations, feel them fully – don’t run away from them.

5) When the sensation of imminent ejaculation has disappeared, restart the process again.

6) After 20 minutes of Edging, stop, put your pants on and do something else.

Congratulations, you have completed a session of basic Edging.

Practice this simple basic Edging session for about two weeks before expecting to see any improvement in your performance.

Edging is not a one-stop solution, but only the beginning of serious ejaculatory control training. There are many other physical and mental aspects you need to tackle to achieve absolute mastery in bed and of course, there are more advanced types of Edging as well as I describe in my training program The 47 Hour, but Edging is probably your best first step, besides quitting watching porn of course, but this is a whole other story.

Sometimes you’ll miss the PONR and ejaculate, that’s normal and part of your learning curve.

Take it easy and keep practicing. With time you’ll sharpen your attention skills and become able to feel the subtlest sensations in your body and everything will become clearer and easier for you to manage.

Following the training in The 47 Hour you’ll naturally develop the ability to feel every phase of the ejaculation process in detail and instinctively pause, slow down or accelerate according to the feedback your body gives you. This is the level of sexual mastery that will totally transform your sex life as it did for me and many other men.

As I always say to my students, think big but start small.

About Deon Black

In the past 11 years, Deon has helped tens of millions of people around the world through his sex toy reviews and guides. Since 2012, he and his team have spent over 60,000 hours testing more than 1000 sex toys. His work & advice has appeared on websites like: Insider, Healthline, MensHealth, Wikipedia, Yahoo, Cosmopolitan, Romper, WomensHealth and more. Learn more.


  1. Hey Deon, thanks for this article.
    Just a question:
    can I watch porn while I edge?

    I mean, I noticed that it makes it more difficult but maybe it helps me improve more quickly?

    Thank you for your help!

    • Deon Black says

      Hey Mike,
      at the beginning you’d better start without porn.

      It helps if you can edge in a completely dark room, in order to totally feel the arousal in your body, get accustomed to it and becoming aware of its patterns.

      The problem with porn is that it steals your attention.
      The videos and the images are so attractive that you lose awareness of your body and get kind of “into the movie” if you know what I mean. Porn trains your attention to be outside your body, which does not help you getting control over it.

      Masturbating to porn makes it very difficult for you to get control over your arousal.

      At a later stage when pure basic edging becomes easy for you then you can slowly add other forms of stimulation, like porn.

      But you need to take it easy and do things one at a time.


  2. Hi there Deon,
    I’ve just bought your book “The 47 Hour Premature Ejaculation Cure” and I was wondering when I can start edging?


    • Deon Black says

      Julian, did you actually open the books?
      On the Daily Plan you can read exactly when you can start edging and what kind of edging you need to do to start with. You’ll find 5 types of edging, how and when to do them.

      Anyways, send me an email if you need help!


  3. Nachos bb says

    This article is pretty cool man,
    thanks for sharing.

    Keep posting some more!

    Oh, actually is the fleshlight necessary? Can I do without?

    • Deon Black says

      Hey Nachos,

      Sure you can do without,
      a fleshlight may speed up your results though.


  4. Deon Black says

    Quick notice guys:

    I’m closing the comments for this article because I get so much spam that you couldn’t believe.

    I might re-open them in the future.

  5. Good article, will start using it on my husband, am tired of the 5 minute sex.

  6. Hi Deon.
    Thanks for the article. Some interesting advice.
    My experience has been a bit different. I’ve been edging for some years now, having developed my technique by trial and error.

    I typically have one session or sometimes two (solo) every day. These last between 30 minutes and an hour, unless I cum sooner. Mostly I don’t cum at all as I find the stimulation is the best part rather than the cuming. Also its good to remain pumped up in case my wife decides she’s feeling horny.

    Sometimes I can go 10 sessions without cuming. Generally when I do cum it’s because I got distracted and lost concentration.

    If I have not cum in one session, in the next session, when I first hit my peak of stimulation I generally have a mini orgasm and I ejaculate. But if I keep stimulating, I remain hard and I can then remain close to the edge.

    If I’m careful I can maintain a state of stimulation that is extremely pleasurable and within
    half a stroke of losing control. I’ve never really taken it beyond an hour, partly because although it remains pleasurable it starts to get less satisfying, plus I generally have other things to do.

    If I go over the edge I have a full orgasm and a smaller ejaculation. So in that sense I’m having multiple orgasms, but I’ve never managed to go beyond 2. That is I’ve never managed to have a second mini orgasm.

    I have experimented with breathing and found that if I sit upright and breathe in then hold my breath for a short period as I approach the edge I can get strong pleasurable tingling rising up my spine. I have wondered whether this is related to Kundalini energy, but I really have no idea. I’m currently trying to improve and intensify this component of the sessions.

    Incidentally, I have tried a Flashlight, but in the end I came to the conclusion that I prefer my hand because I have more control, I can vary the nature of the stroke better and I get the added feedback of feeling the texture and contour of my prick.

    • I have experienced what you called double release also. would love to talk about it. I to have been edging for many years also. Love it and to talk about it .

  7. Hi D.

    I am 18 years old…sadly and I had been wanting to start edging but is there anything I can use instead of lubrication?

  8. Hi Michael.
    I use a mixture of petroleum jelly and just a little cooking oil.
    Much cheaper than commercial lubricants and I find it lasts longer.

  9. Jim Spalten says

    Very informative and to the point. Totally respect your straight forward advice.
    Thank You.

    • hello Jim Spalten
      I am George and loved your response about edging and the feelings you experience in the posting you left at letstalksex.net

  10. Hi, I’d just like to say that I’ve learned edging and controlling my ejaculation long ago.
    But I don’t know if it’s healthy to end sessions without ejaculating at the end. When I do that, I feel like there’s an excess of unreleased chemicals in my body and I feel strange for a whole day, if not longer. If I finish an edging session (30-60 minutes of getting close to cumming while watching porn) I have to end it by ejaculating. Afterwards, I feel refreshed and ready for the day’s chores, work, workout, whatever.

    What’s your opinion on this? Don’t you think there’s a certain mental-trigger that happens when we ejaculate that signals our body to return to a normal chemical balance? Don’t you feel there might be an impact on our physical body if we blue-ball ourselves?

  11. I’m trying to understand how often edging needs to be done

    In the article it says , try edging for two weeks to see imporvement. But doesn’t say how often in those two weeks you should do a 20/30 minute session?


  12. I started edging mainly for the health benefits. Increasing ejaculatory strength, volume, and frequency is just so important for that. It has certainly helped with that. However, I found it made masturbation so much more enjoyable for me, which was unexpected. It’s evolved into a hobby for me and so many men lately. Definitely worth trying edging for at least a month and see how you like it.

  13. Thanks a lot, this reminds me of Tao Sex exercises, seeing improvement already.

  14. Kaykaymo says

    I always edge for several times before ejaculating in sex, as it makes me last longer and cum more. If I am expecting to have sex later I usually edge without ejaculating a day or two before the date as I believe it creates cum and thus makes my cumshot bigger. But edging without ejaculating really makes my balls loose and painful especially after ejaculating later. So my question is edging unhealthy ? Where does the secreted but not ejaculated cum go ?

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