Premature ejaculation and porn are related. A great percentage of men who suffer from premature ejaculation come from a past of porn addiction.
Porn affects premature ejaculation both from a physical and mental point of view.
When I was a teenager I used to watch a lot of porn myself and ejaculate multiple times a day without caring about my sexual future. From a point of view this is understandable. When you’re young and don’t have a happy sex life it’s easy to fall in the “porn trap”.
Looking back I can tell you now that as tough as it might sound, quitting porn would be one of the best steps you could take to cure premature ejaculation.
But since porn is addictive and most men find it very difficult to accept the idea of having to give it up I’ve integrated the use of porn in my training system so that you can use porn to your advantage and develop your ability to delay ejaculation through a smart use of it.
Now, I’m going to divide this article about premature ejaculation and porn in three parts. In the first part I’ll show you what porn does to your mind and body and why it’s a smart idea to stop watching it while you develop ejaculatory control (then you can go back to it later). In the second and third parts, I’ll introduce a couple of ways you can actually use porn to your advantage.
Part 1: How are premature ejaculation and porn related?
The habit of watching porn when masturbating trains your “attention” to be lost in your mind during sex both accelerating the arousal from mental stimulation (some people calls it psychological premature ejaculation) and detaching you from the feeling of your arousal.
Porn also creates performance anxiety by rooting disempowering beliefs in your mind.
Let’s go a bit more in detail.
The main reason why premature ejaculation and porn are related is the power that porn has to suck you into a fantasy reality and make you lose awareness of your body.
And as I’ve told you in other articles and as my students have already discovered, you can’t control something if you are not aware of that thing.
Masturbating to porn has trained you to unawareness. It has trained you to be “lost in your mind” during sex.
It all started when you were a teenager.
When you first discovered masturbation, ejaculatory orgasm was a new strong irresistible pleasure. It was a great way to enjoy, relax, empty your balls and feel relieved.
Since your refractory period was short you had no problems masturbating and ejaculating multiple times a day.
The only goal you had when masturbating as a teenager was ejaculation.
Masturbating often you swiftly developed all sorts of physical and mental habits (like contracting your buttocks, your pelvic muscles or tensing your shoulders) to help you achieve your “ejaculation goal” as quickly as possible.
Now, masturbating to porn didn’t just help you reinforce your habit of “achieving ejaculation quickly” but took your attention into the movie, stealing your awareness and therefore your control.
If today you find it difficult to feel your arousal or your point of no return you shouldn’t be surprised.
If you feel like “premature ejaculation” just happens to you and your have no control over it, masturbating to porn has “helped” you get there.
You’ve trained your attention to be outside your body during sex.
And unfortunately your girl can feel this.
First. They are sensitive and can feel when a man is not in control of his own body.
Second. When your mind starts looping through your imagination while having sex you won’t be able to focus on her body either which means she’ll feel disappointed and ignored.
And you’ll feel embarrassed again.
If you’re having casual sex of course then it’s not a big deal, but if you’re having sex with a girl you care about than it does become a problem. You shouldn’t be surprised if she starts flirting with other men just to get some more attention, the attention she feels she’s missing from you.
Part 2: Use porn to your advantage
As I’ve told you before, premature ejaculation and porn are usually negatively related, but still there are at least a couple of ways you can use porn to your favour.
In the end, when you learn how to use porn to cure premature ejaculation you can dramatically improve your control.
In the training system I’ve created I teach you exactly how to do this easily and one step at a time.
You’ll learn how to masturbate just listening to porn first and then making the challenge tougher but always manageable. There must be a reason why so far all my readers have experienced enormous success with “LTS University“. Probably because I was a porn addict myself and I know how your mind and body works at the moment, and what steps you need to take to become a sex machine.
Part 3: Watch porn technically
Porn can also help you with premature ejaculation if you learn how to detach yourself from the movie and watch it from a “technical” point of view.
What do I mean?
I’m talking about watching porn without your feelings being involved, just like you’re in the porn industry and are studying how the movie is made from a technical point of view.
In that case you’re not watching it to get off, but you’re studying.
Now I’ve been on a porn set and most porn actors don’t have more stamina than the guy who plays batman is able to fly. They are actors and what they do is acting.
I’m always surprised when I hear of men that listen to porn actors’ advice to learn how to last longer in bed. It’s like asking the actor who plays a millionaire how to make money.
He’s an actor and what he’s doing is fake.
Ask the real millionaire if you want a piece of advice, not the guy who “plays” one.
Anyways, even though most porn actors couldn’t last longer than you when having real sex in the real world and without pills or penile injections, it’s true that there is a rare percentage of men who make home made amateur porn, who are able to last naturally.
What you can do is to watch some porn (amateur or otherwise), one scene at a time, and analyze the way the guy thrusts. Note when he slows down according to his arousal (or to his pelvic floor contractions – if he’s more “advanced”), and how he always squeezes his tool when withdrawing.
The secret is to watch one scene at a time. Don’t allow camera changes.
You can easily assume that most of the time there’s a camera change they have stopped in between. The guy has probably cum and the girl has probably put on more lube.
Last thing, I’m not telling you to give up on porn forever (even though that wouldn’t hurt) but to become stronger than it, and then go back to using it when you can dominate it.
When you’ve been abusing porn, trying to turn it to your advantage is like playing with fire. You need to be very careful.
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