Infidelity Statistics [2023 Data] – How Common is Cheating?

They say that there’s only two sure things in life: Death and taxes. They’re wrong, however, because we’ve discovered that there are three: Death, taxes, and infidelity.

Yes, that’s right. Cheating. Doing the dirty. Playing away. Whatever you want to call it, this unfaithful pastime has been the subject of many movies, novels, plays and doomed relationships for centuries, and it looks like that’s never going to change.

No matter how much they might love someone, both men and women are very easily led by their genitals, and we’ve gathered the juiciest, most secret, and illicit facts and statistics, to help us answer one main question:

How common is cheating?

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Key Infidelity Statistics

  • Over 46% of couples have claimed they’ve had affairs.
  • 74% of men and 68% of women admit they would cheat if there was no chance of being caught.
  • Most affairs begin in the workplace, followed by the gym, on social media, and even in church!
  • There are 8 main reasons why people cheat: Lack of love, anger, need for variety, situation or circumstance, self-esteem, low commitment, sexual desire, and neglect.
  • Thailand is the country with the highest infidelity rate.
  • Over 50% of the married population of Thailand admit to cheating at least once.
  • Iceland has the lowest infidelity rate with only 9% admitting cheating.
  • There are 7 types of affairs: Accidental, Avoidance, Philanderer, Entitlement, Split Self, Exit, and Sexual Addiction.
  • There are also non-sexual forms of cheating: Micro cheating and emotional cheating.
  • Cheaters are likely to fall into three main personality types: psychopaths, sociopaths, and lonely hearts.
  • 71% of men also gave “boredom” as their main reason for cheating.
  • Cheaters can encounter health issues: sleep problems, brain fog, stomach aches, hives, performance anxiety, flu-like symptoms, and loss of appetite.
  • Most affairs last only 6 to 24 months.
  • 42% of divorced people admitted to having more than one affair.
  • The National Institutes of Health states that 88% of married couples separated due to infidelity.

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How Common is it to Cheat on Someone?
What is the Most Common Cause of Infidelity?
Where is Infidelity Most Common?
What Are Some Common Types of Cheating?
What Type of Person is a Serial Cheater?
How Long Do Cheating Relationships Last?

How Common is it to Cheat on Someone?

I mean, it must be pretty common, right? We all know someone who’s done it, and celebrities seem to do it all the time … but let’s try to analyze this a bit deeper, shall we?

Let’s put on our white coats, step into our lascivious laboratory, look through our monogamy-hating microscope, and ask ourselves the following questions:

How often does the average person cheat? What percentage of boyfriends cheat? How common is it for a girl to cheat?

So many questions, so little time (Well, for you, anyway. We could talk about this stuff all day!).

Here are some stats that may surprise you, especially if you’re a cheater yourself, and currently feeling like the worst person in the world. (Oh, and this doesn’t excuse you, by the way … so don’t start feeling too good about yourself!)

  • Over 46% of couples have claimed they’ve had affairs.
  • Around 24% of married couples have stayed together after being subject to infidelity.
  • 47.5% of post-cheating couples said they enforced new “relationship rules” afterwards
  • 60% of marriages will involve at least one incident of cheating
  • 74% of men and 68% of women admit they would cheat if there was no chance of being caught.
  • 60% of extra-marital affairs begin with colleagues or close friends.
  • Most affairs last an average of 2 years.
  • 69% of unfaithful marriages end in separation.

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What is the Most Common Cause of Infidelity?

When someone is caught cheating, their natural response is to come up with an excuse. In fact, it’s fairly common to use that old break-up classic “It’s not you, it’s me” and completely turn it on its head.

In other words: “It’s not me. It’s you!”

But is there a deeper reason for this kind of behavior? Is it backed up by science? Can we really excuse this kind of thing by resorting to statistics?

Well, maybe not, but at least we can give it a good try by asking these two questions:

What is the root cause of cheating? What are the 8 reasons people have affairs?

Yes, that’s right. If you’re looking for an excuse, there’s at least eight of them coming up in these juicy little stats we’ve prepared:

  • An investigation of 495 people (87.9% heterosexual) at a USA university revealed 8 main reasons why people cheat.
  • The reasons identified were lack of love, anger, need for variety, situation or circumstance, self-esteem, low commitment, sexual desire, and neglect.
  • A person’s new object of desire can provide not only sexual relief, but also emotional and psychological support.
  • 62.8% admitted that they expressed a great deal of affection to their new love interest.
  • 61.2% admitted that there could often be sexually explicit chats involved.
  • 37.6% admitted that their conversations could be very intimate.
  • 11.1% found themselves saying “I love you”.

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Where is Infidelity Most Common?

So, we’ve talked about “How?” We’ve talked about “Why?” So, let’s look at this from a different perspective, and talk about “Where?”

Every affair needs to start somewhere, right? In a very specific location. But hey, let’s not restrict our “Where?” questions to rooms, buildings, and online spaces.

Let’s take this worldwide, see what cheating looks like all over the globe, find out where infidelity is most prominent, and see if it shows up in some surprising places.

Imagine if Wally from “Where’s Wally?” was a cheating, philandering piece of crap, and we were following him around the planet, hunting him down like a dog. That’s basically what we’re going for here, as we ask these three very searching questions:

Where do most affairs happen? What country has the highest infidelity rate? What country has the lowest cheating rate?

Let’s get into the stats!

  • Most affairs begin in the workplace, followed by the gym, on social media, and even in church!
  • Thailand is the country with the highest infidelity rate.
  • Over 50% of the married population of Thailand admit to cheating at least once.
  • Denmark is in second place, where 46% of people admit to fooling around outside marriage.
  • Italy and Germany share third place, with 45% admitting to infidelity.
  • Several other countries have rates of over 40% including France, Belgium, and Norway.
  • Iceland has the lowest infidelity rate with only 9% admitting cheating, and mostly with ex-partners.
  • Greenland is almost as decent with an infidelity rate of only 12%.
  • Ireland comes next, where a mere 15% admitted cheating, all with ex-partners.

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What Are Some Common Types of Cheating?

Wait. What? There’s more than one kind of cheating?

Well, yeah, it’s not all the same for everyone, you know. There are more flavors of infidelity than flavors of ice-cream (and probably just as much licking involved) and one cheater can be very different to another.

We can’t tar them all with the same brush … although we do have permission to tar and feather them if we catch them in the act (and then parade them through the town naked, asking the locals to throw rotten fruit at them).

Anyway, strap yourself in, because we’re going to be examining a variety of different approaches to infidelity, as we ask ourselves these highly important questions:

What are the 7 types of affairs? What is Microcheating? What is emotional cheating texting?

Bring on the stats!

  • There are generally considered to be 7 types of affairs: Accidental, Avoidance, Philanderer, Entitlement, Split Self, Exit, and Sexual Addiction.
  • There are also considered to be a couple of non-sexual forms of cheating.
  • Micro cheating is something that shares the dishonesty and secrecy of infidelity, without the physical intimacy.
  • Micro cheating is hard to define, as the line between faithful and unfaithful is different for everyone.
  • Micro cheating can include online flirting, messaging an ex-partner, or growing very friendly with a colleague, etc.
  • Micro-cheating can eventually evolve into an intimate but non-sexual form of infidelity called “emotional cheating”.
  • 35% of married women and 45% of married men admit to having emotional affairs.
  • Couples under 30 are at a higher risk of becoming involved in emotional affairs.
  • 3% of children are born due to cheating which developed from an emotional affair.
  • Compared to men, twice as many women (88%) said they considered emotional infidelity to be worse than physical cheating.
  • 48% of married guys suggest that “emotional dissatisfaction” was the main factor behind their cheating.
  • When an emotional affair does turn into physical infidelity, it still takes at least a month for 3 out of 4 men to make the move.

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What Type of Person is a Serial Cheater?

Things with the word “serial” in front of them are never good, are they?

“Serial killer” springs to mind, or “serial offender” and serial cheaters are probably just as hated (possibly even more so, if you happen to be the victim of one of them!).

After all, it’s hardly fair that these people keep getting away with things, is it? Even serial killers eventually end up with life in prison, or the death sentence, but the same certainly can’t be said for that smooth-talking SOB who seems to spend every waking moment trying to score.

But is there a mental reason behind this? And can constant cheating (or even cheating just once, for that matter) affect you in a physical way?

Well, we’re going to put on our stethoscope, ask you to recline on our psychiatrist’s couch, and ask these two questions:

What personality type cheats the most? What happens to your body when you cheat?

Here are some more stats!

  • According to research, cheaters are likely to fall into three main personality types: psychopaths, sociopaths, and lonely hearts.
  • Psychopaths are more likely to have a large amount of sex partners, due to being able to separate sex from love, and not being bothered by lying for long periods.
  • Sociopaths can often have an “avoidant attachment” which makes it difficult for them to trust, rely, or get close to people, and therefore seek people who are less committed and intimate.
  • Lonely hearts may feel their spouse is emotionally unavailable and look for solace in an affair.
  • 71% of men also gave “boredom” as their main reason for cheating.
  • Infidelity can also affect the cheater physically, due to a combination of stress, anxiety, and guilt
  • Cheaters can encounter sleep problems, brain fog, stomach aches, hives, performance anxiety, flu-like symptoms, and loss of appetite.

How Long Do Cheating Relationships Last?

They say that “all good things must come to an end” … but the same can be said of bad things too.

Affairs, for instance, very rarely turn into long-term relationships … but why is that? Many cheaters clearly feel like they’re in love with their secret partner, even going as far as to say those three all-important words (I mean “I love you”, by the way, not “pass the lube”).

And so, as we wind this article to a close, we think it’s best to ask ourselves when, why, and how these temporary flings come to an end, with the following questions.

How do affairs usually end? What percent of relationships end in infidelity?

Here are some final philandering statistics!

  • Most affairs last only 6 to 24 months.
  • The “love hormone” oxycontin starts to drop around 9 to 18 months into the affair.
  • In the early stages of an affair, each party is on their “best behavior”. As the couple get to know each other, the interest in each other naturally starts to wane.
  • People who only see each other for short amounts of time don’t experience the boredom, routine, and stress of everyday life. This becomes the norm as the affair goes on.
  • The American Psychological Association claims that cheating is the cause of 20% to 40% of divorce cases.
  • 42% of people who’d been divorced also admitted to having more than one affair.
  • The National Institutes of Health states that 88% of married couples separated due to infidelity.
  • Compared to peoples in their fifties and sixties, those under thirty and over seventy were far less likely to separate due to cheating.
  • A Gallup poll noted that over 50% of people said they would divorce their partner if they discovered they were cheating.
  • 31% of married people would give a cheating partner a second chance before divorcing them.
  • According to Psychology Today, there’s a much higher chance of women initiating divorce than men.


Sources:

psychcentral
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tandfonline
bloomlawoffice
worldpopulationreview
outragemag
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time
healthresearchfunding
bustle
mindbodygreen
psychologytoday
lovetoknow.com

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