How to Finger a Girl: 7 Best Fingering Techniques (With Pics)

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I have fingered the majority of the beautiful, young, sexy, hot girls that have been blessed by god with the privilege to date me. Read that again. We are talking triple digits (btw if you want to learn how and improve your dating skills feel free to email me and book some coaching with me). In this guide we’ll explore some of the best ways to finger a girl. I hope you enjoy it. Remember the basic rules to always cut your nails, have fun and the classic: “If it’s dry, she’ll cry”.

Get fingering!

Do you want to give your woman the best fingering ever? Are you wondering how best to finger a girl and make her cum?

Then, you’ll love this breakdown of the best ways to finger a girl!

Whether you’re hoping to finger a vagina for the first time or looking for a few tips on giving your girl the best, mind-shattering “O” of her life, you’re in for a treat!

Let’s dive in, fingers first!

Let’s set a few frames first: You’re a fingering a girl because you like her, you want to finger her and it gives pleasure to YOU. You should never finger a girl that you don’t like, don’t want to finger and if it doesn’t give you pleasure. Some people think about fingering as a chore. It should not be, if that’s the case for you, it means you’re either a beta male, you live with a scarcity mindset and you have a very depressing sex life. All this can be changed by learning new skills and changing your mindset. Feel free to email me and book some coaching with me if you need help with that.

How To Finger A Girl – A Step-By-Step Guide

Step 1: Understand her anatomy

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If you want to please the puss, the first thing you need to do is to learn how a vagina works.

If you’re old enough to be reading this, I’m sure you at least have a basic understanding of the vagina.

But understanding the intricacies of her clitoris, labia, vulva, g-spot, and all of her other erogenous zones is vital to learning how to please her.

Of course, this guide is intended to teach you the fine art of fingering a vagina, but learning about her other pleasure spots is vital too.

Step 2: Get her in the mood

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If you’re planning on fingering a girl, whether for the first time or the millionth, the trick is to get her in the mood first.

Obviously, you’ll need to get yourself in a situation where you’re with a girl who’s ready and willing to explore a little hands-on action.

But setting the mood and creating a nice, relaxing environment is just as important as knowing what to do once you dip your fingers in.

Think like Casanova: Turn the lights down low, light candles, play some sexy R&B music, and set the scene for the upcoming romance.

Note: Of course this is a simplification. I have fingered girls in the park under a tree, in a packed MacDonalds while waiting for our order, and in many other crazier situations, but we’re really simplifying it here for real beginners. There’s levels to this game (wink wink).

Step 3: Build anticipation

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If you want her to enjoy, you’ll need to stoke her fires before sticking your fingers in the deep end.

And let me tell you, there’s really nothing better than fingering a woman when she’s truly craving it.

So once you’ve set the mood, it’s time to show her moves.

Talk to her, flirt with her, tease her body, and tantalize her senses before you touch her vagina.

If you do this right, she’ll already be craving it when your fingers start to wander south.

Step 4: Get her wet

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Whether you’re fingering her or trying to stick your dick in, she needs to be wet!

Not only does vaginal lubrication make penetration easier, but it’ll also make it a lot more pleasurable for her.

Just keep in mind that some women have trouble getting wet, especially if they’re nervous or anxious about hooking up.

So I recommend having a bit of water-based lubricant on stand-by, or just using your spit to make things a bit smoother. You can also use a flavored lube.

When I lived in Budapest I used to buy some eatable body oil, I think it tasted like peach and I would rubber it all over her body. I don’t remember the name of this product but I think I was buying it in Body Shop. Anyway a flavored lube from the link above will do the same.

Step 5: Touch the clit and G-spot

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The clit and the G-spot are the two most sensitive parts of her vagina.

So if you want her to feel good, you’ll want to spend most of your time stimulating these spots with your fingers.

Some women are only capable of climaxing from clitoral stimulation so don’t be shy when it comes to rubbing it before slipping a finger in.

Then, once you’re inside, I suggest using your finger to stimulate her G-spot, which is basically the back side of the clit, and can be found on the upper vaginal wall about an inch or two inside her vulva.

Step 6: Be consistent

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There’s no quicker way to prevent her from having an orgasm than by being inconsistent with your moves. Inconsistency is distracting and makes it harder for her to get off.

If you’re a total newbie and have never fingered a girl you will notice how she’s enjoying it and you will naturally feel like continuing doing what you’re doing, so don’t overthink this step.

Do your best to find a good rhythm and stick to it.

And if she says not to stop, don’t stop (unless you’re in pain, in which case just stop).

Yes this goes in the opposite direction of what you may read in mainstream magazines, but you should just stop. Your finger is more important than her orgasm.

Remember your attitude and confidence is more important than anything.

Yes if you stop she may lose her orgasm and she may not orgasm today (maybe she will once you restart), but so what? This should not bother you.

Just continue with your lovemaking and have fun, that’s it.

You’re pleasing yourself, not her. That’s what an alpha male does, and that’s what a feminine sexy young woman finds irresistible. I don’t know about old average women, they may like other things.

Think about it this way:

Would a woman want to fuck again a guy who does as he pleases or a needy guy who gets upset if she doesn’t come and endures massive finger pain to make sure she has an orgasm?

The first guy is communicating abundance, dominance, confidence, carelessness and all other attractive masculine qualities. The second guy is communicating neediness and fear of losing her.

Step 7: Use sex toys

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Adding a clitoral vibrator into the mix can be one of the fastest ways to help her cum.

As I mentioned, some women have trouble reaching orgasm from penetration alone, so a vibrator might be Heaven-sent if you’re trying to get her off.

This is especially true if you’re having trouble being consistent or if your arm or hand keeps getting tired.

After all, a vibrator has much better stamina than you.

Just make sure to have fresh batteries at the ready in case the vibrator dies mid-session.

Step 8: Pleasure beats orgasm

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Even if she has trouble cumming, it’s important not to get upset. A lot of women won’t or can’t cum just from being fingered.

So instead, I suggest you focus on the fact that you’re giving her pleasure and making her feel good.

It’s great if you can get her to orgasm, but simply touching her clitoris and fingering her G-spot are sure to make her feel good.

And that’s a lot!

What is Fingering?

Fingering is a sexual activity that involves using one or more fingers to stimulate a woman’s genitals for sexual pleasure.

When you finger a woman, you insert one or more of your fingers into the vagina and move them in various ways to stimulate her clitoris, G-spot, and all the other sensitive areas around her vulva.

Fingering her can be hot and pleasurable for both partners, which is why it’s often used as a form of foreplay leading up to other sexual activities.

While this guide is primarily to help learn how to finger another person, the act can also help women explore their own bodies and learn what feels good for them.

So fingering can be a fun and satisfying sexual activity for you and her, but if you’ve never fingered a girl before, where should you start?

How To Finger A Girl – 5 Places To Start

Fingering a pussy isn’t a complex activity, but there is a finesse to doing it right to maximize her pleasure.

So as I said before, the best way to start getting good at fingering is to know how the vagina works.

Let’s take a look at the most pleasurable parts of the female genitalia.

1) The outside of the vagina

Her breasts, mons pubis, labia, inner thighs, and stomach may not be part of her vagina, but they’re all extremely sensitive areas that you can touch and stimulate to get her aroused before any type of penetration.

Whether you’re planning on having intercourse or just hoping to get your fingers wet, don’t focus solely on her vagina.

2)The clitoris

The clitoris is a small organ that contains thousands of nerve endings, making it one of the most sensitive parts of the female body. If you don’t know where the clitoris is, just google it.

And like I already mentioned, most women need clitoral stimulation to climax.

So if you want to please your girl correctly, you will want to get friendly with her clit!

And this isn’t just my opinion!

Research shows that women are more likely to experience orgasms through clitoral stimulation rather than with vaginal penetration alone.

Clitoral stimulation can be achieved through a variety of techniques, including using your fingers or the palm of your hand, going down on her (oral sex), or using a vibrator.

3)The G-spot

The G-spot is named after Dr. Gräfenberg, a German gynecologist who first tried to study and document this super-sensitive area of the female vagina.

The G-spot is a sensitive area that usually feels a bit spongy. It’s located inside the vagina, about two to three inches up against the front/upper vaginal wall.

Aside from being packed with many of the same nerve endings as the clit, the G-spot is also responsible for female ejaculation (if she’s lucky enough).

So if you want to give her a mind-shattering, leg-shaking, scream-your-name-at-the-top-of-her-lungs orgasms, you might want to add G-spot stimulation to your fingering repertoire.

I should also mention that many women won’t “squirt” or “gush” from G-spot stimulation, while others may experience ejaculation regularly or intermittently.

For most women, female ejaculation is very pleasurable and adds an additional level of intimacy and connection to the overall experience.

4)The urethra

The urethra, otherwise known as the pee hole, is the opening located inside the vulva, just beneath the clit, where she expels her urine.

Although I hope I don’t need to tell you this, you shouldn’t try stimulating or sticking your fingers in there.

Although sounding (inserting stainless steel probes into one’s urethra) is a common BDSM/fetish act, it’s best to leave it to the professionals.

And if you want to please her, stick to her clit, G-spot, and other sensitive areas instead!

5) The anus

The anus! The butthole of the body is loaded with sensitive nerve endings, which means that, for some women, it can be a pleasurable region to stimulate.

If you put your finger in her ass, you should never put your fingers back into her vagina without cleaning it first. One way to solve this problem is to dedicate one specific finger (or fist depending on how hardcore you are) to her asshole only.

Despite what you may have seen in porn, sticking your finger in her butt and then in her pussy is one of the fastest ways to give her a yeast infection. You can also learn rimming.

And that’s something that nobody wants!

How To Be Good At Fingering‍

Learning her anatomy is a great place to start, but if you want to get good at fingering women, then you’ll need to practice. The more girls you practice with, the better. How you’re gonna find these girls is not the topic of this article, but I can do some private Skype coaching on this if you can afford it.

So now that you know what fingering is (if you didn’t already know) and the main parts of her anatomy, let’s dive into the best techniques for fingering a girl.

But first, let’s review a few important reminders.

Know the risks

Like any other type of sex, stimulating a woman’s genitals with your fingers carries the risk of transmitting sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

While the risk is generally lower than with penetrative sex, it’s still important to take precautions and prevent the spread of STIs.

STIs such as chlamydia, gonorrhea, herpes, and HPV (human papillomavirus) can all be transmitted and spread through fingering.

So to reduce the risk of STI transmission, always practice safe sex. If you know your partner’s sexual history, you don’t really need to worry about it.

Otherwise, I recommend using rubber or latex gloves, or finger condoms, and at the very least, washing your hands thoroughly with soap and water before and after sexual activity.

Sometimes there might be a slight smell

If you’ve never had sex or gone down on a woman, it’s important to know that a vagina can sometimes have a bit of a smell of pee especially if she just came back from the toilet.

This is something rare and very slight. Healthy, young, smoothly shaved girls’s pussy smells and tastes delicious. Unless she has some health issues, in which case I recommend you to stay as far away from her as possible.

On that note, I should also mention that the foods she eats can impact her sexual health.

So the healthier she eats, the healthier her vagina will smell and taste.

Know what turns women on

Women are complex creatures with various turn-ons and turn-offs, just like men. So there’s a whole heck of a lot more to turning a woman on than just sticking a finger into her pussy.

So here are a few things that can also help you get her motor running:

  1. Confidence – A man who knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to go after it can be a massive turn-on for many women. So don’t be shy. Be confident, be cocky, and let the alpha male inside you shine!
  2. Humor – A guy who can make her laugh is worth his weight in gold. So be funny, have fun.
  3. Intelligence – A man who can hold an intelligent conversation can be a major turn-on for women, especially if they value intellectual stimulation. Obviously, you don’t have to be as bright as Einstein, but having mature interests and things to discuss can drive women crazy.
  4. Style – Let’s face it, women are just as visual as men when it comes to physical attraction. So you need to make sure that you look good. And no, that doesn’t mean you need to be handsome. Just take care of yourself and try to look your best by keeping your appearance neat.
  5. Emotional connection – For women, an emotional connection is just as important as a physical one. So take the time to get to know her and connect with her on a deeper level, especially if you’re trying to get your fingers into a deeper level if you know what I mean. She’ll appreciate it, and it can lead to much stronger relationships.

Different women like different things

All of the techniques I’ll teach you below are great, but every woman is different. So what turns one woman on might not work for another.

The key is to pay attention to her body language.

Also, if you’re having trouble listening to what her body is doing, you can straight up ask what turns her on and what she likes in bed. Depending on your level of connection and rapport (or lack thereof) this may elicit horniness in her too.

I personally don’t like this strategy but some people I know swear by it.

With a little trial and error, I’m sure you’ll find what works for both of you.

7 Best Fingering Techniques

Now, let’s dive into what you’ve all been waiting for! The best techniques for fingering a girl!

Let’s go!

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Our first technique is a great way to warm her up before inserting a finger into her vagina. It involves moving your fingers in a circular motion around the clitoris.

This technique stimulates the clit through the clitoral hood, which can lead to intense pleasure and even full-on orgasms for some women.

It’s a surefire way to get her juices flowing, so her pussy will be soaking wet when you slip your fingers in.

The finger bang

Once she’s wet, it’s time to get your finger bang on!

The finger bang is an age-old technique, passed down by generations upon generations of men because it never fails to please.

Start by forming a gun with your hand, with your index out and the rest of your fingers curled in.

Then, gently insert your index into her vulva, moving it in and out, slowly at first, then gradually building speed if she’s reacting positively.

Imagine yourself shooting someone, except that someone is her vagina!

Ideally, you’ll want to aim for the upper wall of her vagina where her G-spot is located.

The come here technique

Another great technique is the “come here” technique, which involves curling your fingers towards the front vaginal wall and making a “come here” motion with your fingers.

This stimulates her G-spot and can lead to intense orgasmic sensations. In some cases, you might even get her to squirt.

So you should probably wear a pair of swimming goggles if you’re going to try this one.

Don’t say I didn’t warn you!

The shocker

If you haven’t heard of it, the shocker is also often described as “two in the pink, one in the stink.”

To perform the shocker, you’ll want to bring your thumb and ring finger together so that your index and middle finger are pointed out together and your pinky is all by itself.

Then, you’ll want to insert your index and middle finger into her vulva while simultaneously inserting your pinky into the ass.

Just make sure to use plenty of lubrication on both holes.

The thumbs up

To do this, you’ll want to have your girl with her back to you, maybe in doggy style or have her up against a wall.

Then, you’ll want to insert your thumb into her pussy from behind and gently press it up against her G-spot.

Meanwhile, you can kiss her back, neck, or cheek, and feel her body with your other hand.

This technique is great, not only because of the G-spot stimulation, but it’ll also place your hand in a way that you should be able to fondle and rub her clit with your other fingers.

The one, two, three (or more)

I recommend starting with only one finger, but the more aroused she becomes, and the wetter her vagina gets, you might try adding another finger or two into the mix.

That said, some women might not enjoy more than one finger (if she’s tight), while others may really enjoy the fullness that comes with using multiple fingers.

Some women may even want more than just a few fingers. After all, fisting is a common fetish act.

But I could write an entire blog about that on its own, and now is not the time nor the place.

The Spiderman

To do the Spiderman technique, you’ll want to bring your middle and ring fingers in toward the palm of your hand, just like Spiderman does when flinging his webs.

The trick here, though, is that you’ll want to do this after inserting those two fingers into her pussy.

This should place them directly against her G-spot.

Then, you can either emulate the come here technique just using your fingers or move your entire hand/arm back and forth.

Don’t be too rough.

How To Finger a Girl – The Do’s

Now that you know the most essential techniques for fingering a woman, let’s dive into some of the do’s and don’ts of hand sex.

Do: Do your research

Get up close and personal with the female body and find out what makes her tick.

To pleasure her, you must learn what turns her on, what makes her weak in the knees, and how to give her that earth-shattering orgasm she’s been dreaming about.

Read books on sex, or visit your local library to brush up on your knowledge of female anatomy.

This looks like very simple advice and yet it’s becoming more and more complex by the day since we live in the Age Of Misinformation. Avoid TikTok advice, avoid Instagram advice, avoid YouTube advice that was published after 2010.

The internet started as a goldmine of useful information about a lot of topics (sex included) up to the early 2010’s when the market started getting crowded and misinformation became more useful for content creators because more shareable and generating more reactions. This left people with worse quality info, and it’s only getting worse by the day with AI and stuff like that.

My suggestion to you is to either listen to advice posted on the internet before 2014 (there’s a setting in Google for searching old results) or to read books published before that year.

Also make sure the person who wrote these books has fingered at least 100 different girls. Otherwise he doesn’t have the competency to teach anything about it.

This means straight women are out of the equation because they have only fingered one person, which is themselves, so their advice is useless and any other knowledge they have is theoretical knowledge, not real life knowledge.

Do: Ask her what she likes

Don’t be afraid to ask her what she likes though.

Fingering a woman can be like trying to solve a Rubik’s Cube blindfolded: it will take some trial and error before you get it right.

I mean, every woman is different, and what works for one might not work for another.

The secret here is to not ask her during sex, or before sex, or after sex. But to ask her this question while doing completely unrelated stuff. For example while you’re grocery shopping or while you’re watching a movie.

It has to look like a simple conversation, it should never look like you’re trying to learn how to please her. And as soon as she tells you, say: “Hmm ok” and change topic completely.

Leave her hanging and thinking why you asked her that.

She may ask you: Why?

Your answer: Nothing, just curious, I thought you liked more like XY. (Followed by change of topic).

She may open the topic again saying: Oh, I like more Y (She’s hooked and likes to talk about it).

Ah ok cool, so kinda like this (show movement), hmm alright, anyway I like this movie part here… (Change topic again).

Let her chase you with the topic, don’t you dare chasing her.

Be cool. Then you can implement your newfound knowledge next time you have sex with her.

And if it doesn’t work, no problem.

Never a big deal.

Nothing is a big deal.

She’s lucky to be with you.

Do: Clean your hands and cut your nails

Always make sure your nails are trimmed, and you don’t have any nasty hangnails dangling from your fingertips.

I assure you no one wants to feel like they’re being poked by tiny daggers, especially not in their genitals.

Plus, think about it from her perspective. That shit is gonna hurt.

Make sure your nails aren’t going to leave her feeling like a cat’s scratching post.

So, do yourself and your lady friend a favor and make sure your nails are trimmed and clean before you go for your little finger dip.

I promise it’ll make the experience a whole lot smoother for both of you.

Do: Make sure she’s comfortable

Whether you’re just fingering her or hoping to get laid, remember that comfort is key.

You might have the fingers of a sex god, but if she’s not comfortable, all your effort will go to waste.

So, as I mentioned before, take the time to set the mood.

Dim the lights, light some candles, and put on some music.

I am not a big music person, in fact I rarely listen to music, but sometimes I do put it on to avoid hearing any outside noise (neighbors talking, people arguing on the street, etc) because these sounds can be distracting and I want to create a little invisible bubble of privacy.

Of course the above only applies to basic home sex scenario.

If I’m having sex in an airport’s toilet with a random girl I just met, I just hurry up and get it done, forget about the music.

Again, there’s levels to this game. I am giving you the very basic in this article to try and help as many people as possible.

It’s also important to make sure you’re in the right position for fingering her.

If you’re going for the classic finger technique, maybe while licking her clit, or if you want to try finger bang, having her in missionary, with her legs spread and you positioned between her legs will work best.

Alternatively, if you’re doing the Spiderman technique, or if you just want to get your hand down her pants and rub her clit, having her lying next to you in a spooning position might be the best bet.

Do: Use lube

This is extra important to remember: lube is your friend!

Sure, you might be thinking, “I don’t need no lube! My fingers are as smooth as butter!”

Well, sure, butter might be great on toast, but it’s not exactly what you want down there. And nobody’s fingers are self-lubricating.

Natural lubrication is a good start, but it’s not always enough to keep things smooth and comfortable.

That’s why I always recommend having a bit of water-based lube on standby to help you and her out when things get dry.

Do: Build anticipation

It’s finally happening.

You’ve been dreaming about this moment for so long, and now you’re ready for business.

But hold your horses, cowboy!

You don’t want to go in too hot and heavy and finish before you’ve even started.

Nope, you’ve got to tease her before you please her.

Start by giving her gentle kisses and strokes around her pussy, touching her breasts, or squeezing her butt to build anticipation and prepare her for what’s to come.

Take your time and enjoy the moment.

After all, you’ve been waiting for this for an eternity. You don’t want it to be over in a minute, do you?

Even if we’re talking about your girlfriend that you’ve fingered many times already. Still build anticipation, it just makes it better for both of you.

Do: Listen to her verbal and non-verbal cues

I know you want to be a rockstar in the bedroom, but you gotta learn to read the room… or, in this case, her body language.

So if she’s moaning and groaning like a happy hedgehog, that’s great! You’re on the right track, and whatever you’re doing is working.

Keep on keepin’ on!

But if she’s gone quieter than a church mouse, or worse, totally still like a statue, then you need to pause and assess the situation.

Maybe your finger technique needs some work, or she’s just not feeling it.

Either way, you need to figure it out and ask her if everything’s okay.

Do: Tell her how much you love her pussy

If you really want to rock her world, tell her how much you love fingering her and touching her body.

Give her genuine compliments, and show her you adore her outside and in.

But don’t just say it, show her. After all, sex takes two, so I encourage you to make some noise too!

Moan, groan, and let those primal sounds escape from your lips. Most women find nothing hotter than a guy who’s totally into what he’s doing.

And if she’s really feeling it, tell her directly how much you love her pussy and the way it feels.

Do: Rub her clit

To give a woman the orgasm of a lifetime, you must pay your respect to the clit.

It might be small, but don’t be fooled! Her little love button is a powerhouse of pleasure.

And if you want to make her cum, you’ll have to spend some time rubbing, stroking, and stimulating it like there’s no tomorrow.

If your face is already down there, why not take it up a notch with a bit of oral sex?

Give that love button some kisses, gentle licks, or even a little suck while you’re fingering her.

She’ll be putty in your hands if you do.

Do: Stimulate her G-spot

Some say it’s a myth, but I assure you that most women I’ve been with have a G-spot.

For the best results, use the “come here” or “Spiderman” techniques that I mentioned above.

When done right, G-spot stimulation is a lot like finding the secret ingredient for your grandma’s famous recipe.

It’s that extra spice that takes things from good to great. And without it, things just are the same.

So, put on your explorer hat and start feeling around for her G-spot. She’ll thank you when you find it!

Do: Caress her body

Yeah, the vagina is fantastic, but let’s not forget about the rest of her body.

Before fingering her, you’ll want to build anticipation by rubbing, hugging, squeezing, and touching the rest of her body too!

Tease her with your words, your breath, and your touch. Make her mind and body tingle with excitement.

The more you can turn her on before getting down to business, the better.

So, don’t be afraid to use your imagination and explore other erogenous zones.

Do: Use toys

Add a toy or two to the mix. Just think of them as your wingmen in the quest to make her toes curl.

G-spot vibrators, dildos, sensitivity creams, gels, or lotions can be your secret weapons.

Just make sure the sex toys you use are cleaned properly before and after use!

And no, using them doesn’t make you any less of a man (or woman).

It just makes you a man (or woman) who knows how to please a woman beyond the bare minimum.

Do: Make eye contact

Making eye contact while fingering her can be incredibly sexy and intimate for both of you.

Eye contact creates a powerful connection between partners and can intensify the pleasure and excitement of the moment.

When you look into your partner’s eyes, you’re not only seeing their physical reaction but their emotional response too.

So eye contact really is a great way to communicate and connect with your girl on a deeper level, which leads to more satisfying and fulfilling sexual experiences.

Plus, it’s a great way to show your partner that you’re fully present and engaged at the moment, which can be a huge turn-on.

How To Finger a Girl – The Don’ts

Now that you know the secrets of pleasing a woman with your hands, it’s time to learn what you should not do.

Don’t: Change the rhythm when things are going well

Consistent motion and speed are important when fingering a woman because it allows her body to relax and lock into the rhythm.

So if you’re constantly changing speeds or stopping and starting every few minutes, it can be distracting and makes it difficult for her to enjoy the experience.

You want to start slow, and gradually build up anticipation and excitement.

But once you hit that sweet spot, when you hear her moan or see her body react, maintain that speed and intensity for as long as it takes.

So just as a general rule of thumb, remember that consistency is vital when fingering a woman.

Don’t: Start at full speed

Starting at full speed can be overwhelming and even painful for her. So you definitely don’t want to ram your fingers in her pussy like a jackhammer on steroids!

Again, remember to take your time, build the momentum gradually, and let her body adjust to the sensation of having your fingers inside her.

Think of it like warming up before a workout. You wouldn’t start with the heaviest weights or the most intense exercise right off the bat, would you?

The same principle applies here.

Start slow, and pay attention to her body language to know when to amp things up.

And if she seems uncomfortable or in pain, slow down or stop altogether.

Don’t: Finger her cervix

The cervix is a part of the female reproductive system that is the gateway between the vagina and the uterus.

It’s a small, cylindrical-shaped opening at the end of the vaginal canal. And it definitely does not need any type of stimulation.

Fingering or poking a woman’s cervix can be highly uncomfortable, even painful, and can cause cervical tears, which can lead to infections.

So unless you want her to end up in the ER with a very awkward story to tell, it’s best to leave the cervix alone.

Questions – How To Finger A Girl?

That sums up all the important information you’ll need to know to finger a woman effectively!

But just in case there’s anything else you’re still wondering about, I’ve included a few frequently asked questions to help tie up any loose ends.

What’s the proper way to finger a girl?

The proper way to finger a girl is to try any of the techniques I mentioned in this article, pay attention to her body language, and adapt.

Get her in the mood, build anticipation, and always remember that comfort should be prioritized over everything else.

How should I finger a girl when she has an extremely sensitive clit?

The clitoris is a highly sensitive area, and for some women, clitoral stimulation can be too much.

So if your girl has an extremely sensitive clit, approach it with care and gentleness.

One technique you could try is using your fingers to stimulate the surrounding areas, like the labia or the vaginal opening, instead of directly touching the clit.

I also recommend experimenting with different levels of pressure and touch, using a very featherlight touch or even just your fingertips.

Sometimes, less is more when it comes to sensitive areas.

How to finger myself for the first time?

First and foremost, you must be comfortable and relaxed if you want to finger yourself for the first time.

Make sure your hands are clean, and your nails are trimmed, and if needed, you can use a lubricant to make the entire experience more comfortable for you.

Then, just start by exploring your body and finding what feels good. Experiment with different types of touch and see what feels best for you.

When ready, insert a finger or two into your vagina.

Remember that this is a personal and intimate experience, and it’s entirely up to you to decide what feels good and what you’re comfortable with.

What does it feel like to finger a girl?

Remember that scene from American Pie when Jim’s friend tells him that fingering a girl feels like the inside of a warm apple pie?

Well, this actually is pretty close to the truth! It’s warm, wet, and at least in my opinion, tastes just as sweet.

But fingering a girl will feel different for everyone and depends on her anatomy, her level of arousal, and the type of touch you’re using.

How do I finger a girl and make love?

Everyone’s body is different, so what feels good for one person may not feel good for another.

But foreplay, fingering her, and performing oral sex on each other are all great ways to get both of your bodies in the mood.

As you explore each other’s bodies, consider your partner’s responses and body language. And always focus on the entire experience, not just the physical act of penetrating your partner.

Take your time and create a romantic and intimate atmosphere with candles, music, or whatever makes you and your partner feel comfortable and relaxed.

And above all, just make sure to have fun and enjoy the experience together!

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