I am definitely an ass man more than a boobs man. I just get horny even writing this, but in my successful player career I have been with a lot of gorgeous girls with beautiful faces and sexy peachy asses. As a very experienced ass eater, I am gonna teach you how to eat ass in this beautiful illustrated guide.
Are you ready to take your rimming game to the next level?
Then, look no further, because today we’re talking about how to eat ass like a pro.
That’s right, we’re diving deep into the world of rimming and exploring all the ins and outs (pun intended) of this intimate and pleasurable act.
So grab your bib, a glass of water, and maybe a douche, and get ready to become a bona fide booty-eating expert.
Warning: this post may contain graphic details about butt stuff, so proceed at your own risk!
How To Eat Ass – A Step By Step Guide
Step 1: Know the anus
As much as rimming can be pleasurable, the anus is made from extremely sensitive tissue, which is prone to tears if you’re not gentle with it.
So the single most important step of eating ass is to understand how delicate her backdoor really is.
Step 2: Start with foreplay
Just like penetrative sex, eating ass is better with a bit of foreplay.
Don’t just dive in headfirst like a starving piranha. Take the time to get your partner in the mood first.
Especially for women, foreplay is everything!
So before you stick your tongue where the sun doesn’t shine, tease her with some sensual touches and kissing, or maybe even a little dirty talk (not necessary – only if you’re into that).
Then, when the time is right, slowly make your way toward her back door.
Step 3: Tongue the hole
There’s not all that much to eating ass, but you will want to focus on upping your tongue game!
When it comes to tongue action, you want to be like a ninja: precise and deadly (in a good way, obviously).
Try flicking your tongue around the anus, or running your tongue in circles around the hole.
If you’re feeling extra adventurous, go ahead and try to insert your tongue in there just like you would with your finger or penis.
Just remember to take your time and listen to your partner’s reactions.
If they’re moaning with pleasure, keep doing what you’re doing.
Otherwise, it might be time to switch things up.
Step 4: Use your hands
Just because you’re eating ass doesn’t mean you have to keep your hands in your pockets.
Use those hands like a pro!
Let your fingers roam free and explore your partner’s body like a horny detective.
Feel her breasts, grab her butt cheeks, and give her a proper spank.
And if you really want to up the ante, why not try stimulating her clit or giving her pussy a little finger action too?
Step 5: Know when to stop
Now, I’m not saying it’s impossible to give your partner an orgasm from eating their ass, but let’s be real here: the odds aren’t really in your favor.
So instead of trying to make her cum, think of eating ass as a form of foreplay to get your partner in the mood for the main course and help you last longer in bed.
And always watch your partner’s body language.
If they’re moaning with pleasure and squirming like a snake in heat, keep going! But if they start to react less and less, it’s probably time to move on.
Be a smart ass-eater and know when it’s time to switch things up.
Table of Contents
What Is Rimming (Analingus)?
Rimming, also known as analingus or “anal tonguing,” is a sexual practice that involves oral stimulation of the anus.
It involves gently licking, sucking, or otherwise stimulating another person’s anus with your mouth and tongue.
Rimming can be a pleasurable experience for some girls, but not everyone is going to be into the idea of having their ass eaten.
And, as I’ll discuss below, it’s important to know that rimming carries some health risks, such as the potential transmission of STIs and bacteria.
So it’s important to use appropriate precautions and practice good hygiene, but as I said, we’ll get to all that in a minute.
Why do people eat ass?
Some people eat ass because they’re turned on by the idea of anal play, others find it pleasurable, and some girls might enjoy having someone eat their ass because it’s an erogenous zone for them.
But for the most part, people eat ass because it can be sexy, they want to explore every nook and cranny of their partner’s body, and the butt is just one more place to explore.
There’s really no single reason why people enjoy rimming or analingus.
So the important takeaway is to understand that rimming and all forms of anal play are perfectly normal sexual acts, and there’s nothing wrong or nasty about them!
Why should you try rimming your wife or girlfriend?
I recommend rimming your wife, girlfriend, or partner simply because it can be an incredibly sexy and intensely pleasurable experience.
Obviously, you already know that your partner has a ton of hotspots on their body, right? I’m talking about erogenous zones, like the nape of their neck, their inner thighs, or their earlobes.
Well, their butthole is just another erogenous zone that can be teased and pleased.
Yup, the anus is jam-packed with sensitive nerve endings and if stimulated properly, it can open up into a whole new level of pleasure, that is, of course, if you’re brave enough to tread into their backdoor.
Ultimately, rimming your wife or girlfriend is just another way to explore their body, show them new sensations, and really amp up your sexy time together.
That said, it’s really important to remember that not everyone is into the idea of anal play. So if either of you are new to rimming, just take things slowly, be gentle, and explore everything her butt has to offer.
What does getting rimmed feel like?
Getting a rim job can feel sexy, sensual, personal, intimate, and downright emotional.
It can also feel a bit ticklish as your partner’s tongue swishes around your butthole. But because of all the nerve endings, these ticklish sensations can also be quite pleasurable.
No matter how it feels physically, giving and receiving a rim job is quite a personal experience.
So many people feel that it can leave you feeling vulnerable, which can either be a turn-on or a turn-off.
Regardless, getting a rim job is an entirely different experience from traditional oral or vaginal sex, so just be prepared to feel things that you’ve never felt before.
How Should My Partner Prepare For A Rim Job?
For the most part, your partner should make sure their butthole is clean before you go in for a bit of analingus.
I suggest getting in the shower and cleaning their butt with a bit of soap and water.
Make sure that there are no poo particles left on their butthole, and it’ll also clean away any sweat, which can leave their crack smelling less-than-pleasant.
If you really want to step things up a notch, and especially if you’re planning on penetrating their butt, I also suggest using an anal douche, which essentially squirts water up their butt to flush out any of the bad stuff.
Knowing the risks involved in analingus
Rimming involves contact with the anus and the surrounding areas.
And because this is where your partner expels their feces from, it’s also a region of the body that tends to be a source of bacteria.
If you’re not careful, contact with their anus can spread germs, which can cause pink eye or stomach upset from intestinal parasites or other types of bacteria.
But there’s also the risk of spreading sexually transmitted infections (STIs) like gonorrhea, chlamydia, and herpes.
On top of that, I should also mention that anal play also involves the risk of transmitting hepatitis A, which can be found in the fecal matter of infected individuals.
So all that to say good hygiene, proper preparation, and safe sex practices are key in reducing the risks involved with eating ass.
Make sure everything is clean
Listen, I don’t want to freak you out. I have eaten plenty of beautiful asses and I am totally fine and healthy. But it’s all about making sure your girl’s butt is clean.
This is common sense for most people and the type of girls I like to date. But if your girl doesn’t wash her asshole with soap and water as a routine behavior after going to the toilet, then make sure she washes it before you eat it!
You should also probably break up with her and find a cleaner girl.
Maintaining proper hygiene through washing and douching before analingus helps to ensure a safe and enjoyable experience for both partners.
I also recommend eating her ass while you have sex in the shower, which can help both of you get clean before and after the act!
The Basics Of Giving A Rim Job
Giving a rim job isn’t a complicated process. In fact, I highly doubt that it was a rocket scientist who invented the act.
But if you want to give your girl a great rim job, you need to understand the basics of analingus.
And what better way is there to learn the basics than by getting to know the anus!
Understanding the anus
The anus is part of the digestive system and finds itself located at the far end of the digestive tract, which, as we all know, is where feces comes out.
It is made up of two muscles: the internal sphincter, which is an involuntary muscle, and the external sphincter, which is a voluntary muscle.
It’s completely impossible to control your internal sphincter, but the external sphincter can be tightened (like when you’re trying to hold it in until you find a toilet), or relaxed, which is what you or your partner should be doing when experimenting with anal play.
But why does analingus feel good?
Well, the anus itself and surrounding tissue are packed with sensitive nerve endings.
These nerve endings are precisely why analingus can feel ticklish, but also so good when someone is swirling their tongue around your backdoor.
So now that we’ve been better acquainted with the backdoor, let’s dive into the nitty-gritty of ass-eating!
What’s The Best Position For Eating Ass?
Doggy style, face sitting, and 69ing are some of my favorite positions for eating ass, but there’s no single best position.
While some of you might prefer to eat ass from behind, others might prefer when their girl sits on their face.
Regardless, the best positions for eating ass typically involve those that allow for optimal access to the anus.
Let’s take a look!
Doggystyle – Face down, ass up
This classic sex position is great because it provides complete and total access to her asshole.
When she has her face down and her ass up, you’ll have full access to her ass, perineum, and pussy, which should give you all the tools you need to give her an A+ rim job.
On top of that, doggy style will also leave your hands free to squeeze, tease, and smack her butt cheeks, or explore the rest of her body while your tongue works its magic.
As an alternative, you can also eat her ass from behind while she’s standing.
Personally, I find this works great if you’re eating her ass in the shower.
But as long as her pants are down, and her ass is out, you can really eat her ass from behind anywhere.
Face sitting or queening (regular or reverse)
Having her sit on your face, which is also known as queening, is another great for analingus because it puts her in control of the location, pressure, and intensity of where you’re licking.
It can also be incredibly sexy to have your girl squat over your face and smother you with her ass.
But on top of that, face sitting is also a more versatile position since it can be done with her facing you or away from you (think regular or reverse cowgirl).
69ing
The classic 69 is a great position because it’s more of a quid pro quo type of thing.
In other words, you can eat her ass, while she eats yours, or while she gives you a blowjob.
But the downside to this position is that it’s better for eating pussy than it is for eating ass because access to her ass is a bit more limited.
So for this to work, you’ll both need to be a bit more flexible.
Missionary
Missionary is yet another classic position that can be great for eating ass as long as she’s on the more flexible end of the spectrum.
Unfortunately, while this position is great for going down on a woman’s pussy, it doesn’t really provide great access to her ass.
So if you want to eat her ass in this position, I recommend her legs up as high as possible.
Pro tip: you can use your hands to help her!
On the other hand, missionary is one of the best positions to have penetrative anal sex with a girl for her first time. Just push her legs back and her asshole will spread, making it easier to give her butt sex.
But we’ll talk about this another day.
For now, let’s dive into the best tips and techniques for eating ass like a pro!
What Are The Best Tips And Techniques For Eating Ass?
While chowing down on booty may not require a degree in engineering, there are definitely some important tips and tricks to keep in mind if you want to give her a grade-A rim job.
So without any further ado, let’s take an even deeper dive into the world of ass-eating.
Get the receiver excited
Just like with any other type of sex, foreplay is important!
What I’m trying to say is that you don’t want to dive headfirst into her backdoor cave until you’ve warmed her up a bit first.
That might mean flirting, making out, eating her pussy, or just spending some quality time with her before spreading her cheeks.
Trust me, you’ll both have a much better time if you make the effort to warm her up before chowing down on her ass.
Lubrication is key
I already mentioned how sensitive the anus can be. This means that, if you’re not careful, it’s easy to cause minor injuries and tears to the surrounding tissue.
And that’s exactly why it’s so important to make sure everything’s lubed up with playing with her butt!
You can use just about any type of lube, including your spit, but I recommend flavored lubes for any type of butt play!
Even if she’s taken the time to clean up and wash, flavored lubes can make her butt even tastier than you ever thought imaginable.
Get in there, champ!
So you’ve warmed her up, gotten her into position, and now, it’s time to chow down!
Just get in there and show her what you’re made of! Now is definitely not the time to be shy.
Dive in there, and do your best to give her the rim job of a lifetime.
There’s no single technique that you should use, but gentle tongue flicks, running circular motions around her hole, or trying to penetrate it with your tongue are likely the best moves to try.
Just do your best and watch her reactions to judge how to proceed.
You’ve been wanting this! So now is not the time to hesitate.
Flatten the top of your tongue against their asshole
Obviously, there’s no single technique you should use. The trick is to do whatever feels good for her and comfortable for you.
But flattening out your tongue and pressing it against their anus can be a bit of a game changer.
By doing this, you’ll be creating a larger surface area, which means that you’ll be stimulating more nerve endings, providing your partner with more warmth and wetness to enjoy.
Again, though, watch their reaction. If they seem to like this technique, keep it up.
But if they don’t seem to react favorably, either try something else or move on to some other form of foreplay.
Give pleasure to surrounding anal areas
Sure, the anus itself is very sensitive, but you need to understand that most of those nerve endings are on the outside, not the inside, of her butthole.
So while you might think it’s sexy to penetrate her butthole with your tongue, fingers, or penis, teasing the outside of her hole is probably going to feel the best for her.
In other words, most of her pleasure will come from using your tongue to tickle and stimulate the sensitive tissue surrounding her anus, not by actually getting inside of it.
Relax (for both the giver and receiver)
Sex can already be physically and mentally demanding. So if either of you is tense, it’s definitely not going to help anyone have a good time.
Especially if she’s clenching her external sphincter, she’s not going to be allowing herself to enjoy the full experience of having her ass eaten.
That’s why she needs to relax and let her sphincter loosen up.
As the giver, you also need to stay calm and not get overly excited about the fact that you’re eating her ass.
Especially if this is either of your first times, just take things slow, be gentle, use plenty of lubrication, and talk things out if either of you is feeling uneasy about the experience.
Just make sure to create a safe and sexy atmosphere so that both of you can relax and enjoy the moment.
Use more than your tongue
Obviously, your tongue is going to be doing a lot of the work when eating ass. But it’s just as important to use your hands to touch, tease, and stimulate the rest of her body.
So don’t be afraid to let your hands explore her butt cheeks, touch her inner thighs, or even rub her clit while you’re tonguing her asshole.
And remember that anal toys, like anal vibrators and butt plugs, also pair well with analingus!
Ultimately, the more sensations you can give her while eating her ass, the better.
Try a position where the receiver has control
Personally, eating ass from behind is one of my top favorites, but putting your girl in control can be a total game-changer!
Having her sit on your face puts her in control of how hard you’ll be licking and where.
It also gives you a front-row seat to her body sitting on top of you, which can be incredibly sexy.
But for the most part, having her sit on your face just helps her relax so that she’ll feel more comfortable while you’re eating her ass.
Experiment with speed, direction, and pressure
Again, I need to mention that there’s no one-size-fits-all technique for eating ass. It’s all about trying different things and finding out what works best.
So it’s time to experiment and find out what really gets her going.
Try flicking your tongue at different speeds, moving it around in different direction, or licking, sucking, or tonguing it with varying amounts of pressure.
Just make sure you’re not licking her asshole with a single motion that isn’t getting any type of reaction from her.
Go ahead and let her know you love it
If you’re having the time of your life while eating her ass, let her know it!
You can do this by moaning and making sexy, primal noises while you’re down there, or by simply telling her directly how much you love the taste of her ass.
The fact is that most people are hesitant about letting someone eat their ass. After all, that’s where we poop from.
So when we hear genuine compliments about our body’s backdoor, it can really help us relax and enjoy the experience to the fullest.
On top of that, moaning can create some intense vibrations, which can add a bit of extra stimulation and pleasure to what you’re doing.
So don’t hold back! Let her know you love her ass!
Take it to the next level
If you really want to step up your booty-eating game, you need to remember that there’s a lot more to your partner than just her asshole.
Obviously, if you’re reading this, your goal is to eat her ass.
But for a truly mind-boggling rim job, you’ll want to explore other areas of her body too!
So take your time, tease her pussy, thighs, and breasts, and build up the anticipation until she’s practically begging for you to dive back into her ass.
And remember that giving a rim job pairs well with other sexual activities.
So if she’s really into it, try incorporating some fingering action into the mix.
Just make sure you’re careful not to put anything that’s been in their ass into their vagina unless you’re looking for a one-way ticket to infection town.
Give the taint some love
The perineum, which is also sometimes referred to as the taint, is the small patch of skin that rests between the bottom of her vagina, and her anus.
Like her anus, this small patch is also jam-packed with nerve endings, so it really is worth stimulating if you want to give her the experience of a lifetime.
You’ll probably spend most of your time licking her asshole, but don’t forget to show the taint some love too!
Not only is it an incredibly sensitive area, but it’s also a prime spot for giving her some seriously mind-blowing sensations that she won’t soon forget!
Don’t use your teeth
I really hoped that I wouldn’t have to warn you, but under no circumstances should you ever use your teeth when performing analingus on your girl.
Again, I remind you that the anus is incredibly sensitive and requires a delicate touch, not the gnashing of your teeth!
Your tongue and lips are much softer, and wetter, and will feel much better against her asshole than your teeth.
So just remember: NO TEETH!
Grab her pussy like a sandwich
While she’s standing against a wall grab her pussy like a sandwich and lick her asshole at the same time.
I found this technique to be very pleasurable to do and very exciting for girls, basically her pussy is clenched in your hand or between your thumb and index (whatever feels more comfortable for you) while you rim her.
Use your other hand to grab her ass cheek and slap it.
Debunking Rimming Myths – Fact Vs. Fiction
Despite what you may think or may have heard, I assure you that eating ass is a perfectly normal thing to do.
But a lot of people have ideas of misconceptions about analingus that are just wrong!
So I thought it might be a good idea to debunk a few of these myths once and for all.
Myth – It’s nasty, gross, or disgusting
You can describe ass-eating as nasty or gross, but if somebody is into it, there’s nothing wrong with it whatsoever.
In fact, some people are specifically turned on by sexual acts that are considered nasty by others.
So as long as cleanliness and safety are made a priority, there’s absolutely nothing nasty, gross, or disgusting about eating ass.
Don’t knock until you’ve tried it. After all, you might even like it!
Myth – It’s like you’re eating feces
As long as your gal takes the time to wash and clean before you eat her starfish, there shouldn’t be any feces involved whatsoever, and there should be no comparison to eating feces either.
Other than the fact that it’s where people poop from, the anus is no different than any other body part.
And yeah, as long as it’s cleaned, I promise you that it’s not like you’re eating feces at all.
Frequently Asked Questions – How To Eat Ass
By now, you should have a fairly good idea of how you can eat ass and give an A+ rim job.
But for those of you that still have some unanswered questions, we thought it’d be a good idea to include a few of the most frequently asked questions we hear from our readers.
How do I eat ass like a pro?
If you want to eat ass like a pro, I suggest you start by understanding why analingus feels good.
It’s an incredibly sensitive body part that can be pleasured and stimulated, just like a vagina or penis.
But because of how sensitive the anus is, you’ll need to take a gentle approach and use plenty of lubrication.
And while there’s really no right or wrong way to do it, flattening your tongue against their hole is one of the best techniques I can offer. It will cover more surface area and provides ample stimulation and wetness for them to enjoy.
How are people able to eat ass without getting seriously ill?
When it comes to a bit of butthole bacteria, it turns out that the human body is incredibly resilient.
Of course, there’s always a risk of transmitting an infection when you’re having any type of sex.
But for the most part, as long as your partner is healthy and free of STIs, there really isn’t much risk of getting sick when eating ass.
Of course, you’ll still want to make sure things are clean and tidy before diving into her backdoor cave.
But even if you do come into contact with a bit of feces, there really isn’t all that much to worry about.
How do I get better at eating ass?
Like any skill, the only way to get better at eating ass is to practice!
So if you really want to improve your ass-eating game, you’ll need to put in some serious tongue time.
So find yourself a girlfriend who likes having her ass eaten, and then play around, experimenting with different techniques, and see what turns her on the most.
You can also try eating ass from different positions, using different tongue movements, and just seeing which ones get the best reaction.
Don’t be afraid to get creative. After all, variety is the spice of life!
Is it a common sexual practice to eat people’s asses?
Yes, eating people’s asses, known as rimming, is a common sexual practice.
Once upon a time, anal play was more of a taboo subject. But over the years, thanks to pornography and the internet, rimming is becoming increasingly popular.
Still despite its popularity, rimming isn’t for everyone.
Some girls love it, some don’t. But as long as two people are open to the idea, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with eating ass.
How do I get my girlfriend to let me eat her ass?
Not all girls will like being rimmed, mostly because they’re worried their asshole will taste bad and you won’t like them anymore.
Think about the perfume industry. Girls spend so much money to always smell nice, and her perfect smelling being image can be crashed if you taste feces on her skin.
As long as she’s clean her ass will taste just like any other body part, but some of them may still be worried. It’s a bit of an irrational concern, but girls are not very rational.
Anyway if you think she may be concerned about it, start biting and kissing her butt cheeks while in the shower, when you know that she knows that she’s clean.
As you kiss and bite her butt cheeks slowly make your way towards her asshole.
Gauge her response. If she’s ok with it, she’ll enjoy the ride. If she’s uncomfortable, she will move around or say it. In that case stop doing it and do something else. She’s not ready yet.
After you have sex tell her how much you enjoy giving her pleasure and how you want to explore new ways of doing that.
Next time you have sex try again the same thing, she may be more comfortable now and let you do it.
If it fails again, let it go for a while.
She may get into it over time, or she may just not like it, in which case you can choose to stay with her or to break up and find a girlfriend that likes to have her ass eaten. Think abundance, there are billions of beautiful girls in the world to choose from.
If you need help brushing your dating skills, send me an email and book a coaching session with me. You’ll be banging new girls in no time.
Remember to never make rimming a big deal, you don’t have to eat her ass to have a fulfilling and satisfying sex life. Even if she doesn’t like it, you can still be happy together.
In fact I doubt that many of our grandpas were ever rimming our grandmas, and yet they were together all their lives, no? What a weird way to end a blog post.
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